Within the interracial dating community there are many blogs and websites set up where people can come together to chat and share common experiences. Many are places where people can just share opinions on relevant issues and many have dating resources much like e harmony type sites. One site I found was the Interracial Dating Central Blog : http://www.interracialdatingcentral.com/blog/. This site is a mixture of various blogs as well as dating opportunities. One really interesting post was titled Interracial Datinig: getting personal.
August 14th, 2008
Interracial dating: getting personalPosted by James
I was going through various interracial dating articles the other day and I bumped into this comment. My first reaction was WTF! Are we ever going to get past black and white dating? Are we ever going to let Black-White interracial couples just be? Well this I had to share:
Interracial dating: getting personalPosted by James
I was going through various interracial dating articles the other day and I bumped into this comment. My first reaction was WTF! Are we ever going to get past black and white dating? Are we ever going to let Black-White interracial couples just be? Well this I had to share:
“I feel that interracial dating among minorities is fine, such as Black and Asian, or any other person of color. My problem with white and black dating is the history and also the way Black people are treated by White America still today. I believe the only reason Whites want to date Black people is to further divide our families and our communities, love has nothing to do with it. When Black men and women stood together, our communities were stronger, our children were better off as a whole and economically our communities were more vital. Please don’t be fooled by White people’s trickery anymore. And furthermore, in America there has always been interracial dating. This time Black women are not being taken behind the wood shed, they are making the decision to be with White men. How can sleeping with the enemy be beneficial to any person of color? … The majority of White people in this country are still racist, even the ones who date outside of their race. Talk to some of the people who have married Whites, especially the White women are the most racist of them all. She hates Black women and loves the Black man?”
Since this person is saying black-black dating made the black communities stronger, I believe he or she also means dating Whites makes the communities weaker. And if this person is for interracial dating within minorities, how does that make the Black community any stronger? I thought interracial dating is interracial dating. The composition doesn’t matter. Should we really be dragged behind by the history of slavery? uuuuuuughhhhhhh!!! Snap out of it!
Enough about my opinion. What do you think?
The general consensus on the blogger was total disagreement. It was a pretty equal number of whites and blacks who responded to the woman's blog, and all were angry. I thing that i found so interesting was how hyprocritical the woman was. She could not stop talking about how racist white people still are when she was clearly a pretty extreme racist herself. This was evident in her sleeping with the "enemy" comment. She thinks of white people as the enemy. In addition to her being racist towards white people in general, she was very degrading of blacks as well. She is saying that black people who date whites are being tricked and completely unloved by their white significant others. This to me, seems to imply that a black person who dates a white person is not intelligent enough to see when they are being tricked, or lack self worth for putting up with. How insulting to both parties!!! However, even though there are some questionable bloggers on this site, the whole point is that people have a place where they can express their opinions freely. Even though her opinion is widely disagreed upon, she still has the right to voice her beliefs.
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I agree with your examination of the woman's opinion. How can one say that they are for interracial dating but then contest that certain forms of interracial dating are detrimental to a specific community? To me, it seems equivalent to saying that you support gun control but you don't believe that there should be legislation created which are in support of gun control. Where's the sense? I have to agree with James about his "WTF!" reaction. Despite the fact that I have so many issues with her statements, I have to agree with you that she does have the right to voice her opinions. No matter how much one may disagree with the opinions of another, they must realize that to deny another persom their right to speak their mind would also deny their own right to speak out.
I have to say that this woman just seems to be perpetuating the cycle of racism as far as dating is concerned.
It is almost like this woman thinks that you have to be white to be a racist, and that her obvious hatred toward white people is not racism.
It is sad to hear that people like this are trying to make it difficult for people of different races to come together.
How can we expect segregation and seperation to not happen if people continue to be proponents of it?
This seems seriously skewed.
I'm going to be quite honest. While I was reading this blog, I got this sick flip flop feeling in my stomach. I felt incredibly sheltered in not knowing that this was even an issue in the United States. Don't get me wrong, I was amware of the fact that certain people, relgions, and even parts of the United States are not overly fond of the idea of interracial dating, however I did not realize that it was a big of uproar as it has proven to be here.
Every "group" needs support. Every person needs someone. Interracial dating has brought much more hard times to Americans than I would have ever imagined. The woman's opinion was by far the most bothersome of the entire blog. She has no support for anything she says, its nothing but hate and racism, and will no good real reason. It seems blown up and repetative. As much as I would like to say that it isn't legitamate and just plain bogus, I stop and think. These things really do happen. People like her really do exist. That is probably the worst part of all.
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